The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.
CONTINUING ON THE SERIES OF LOVE AND LIVING SUCCESSFULLY WITH SCREWED-UP PEOPLE FROM LAST WEEK. ALONG WITH HOW SAFE IS MEXICO?
Today we are off on another adventure, this time - Smith Mountain Lake State Park.
Dan and I found our place here in Virginia, forest all around with lots of nature. I’ve never seen so many deer in my life! Being a Floridian for fifty-four years, so much that I have missed. Yes, I was very lucky being raised near the beaches of Florida. Back in the day, as I remember; it was very easy to drive to the beach and park right near the beach. Now a days, parking is rough and try getting on the beach. I think those days are over.
Tomorrow, you know me; pictures of our adventure into nature will follow.
Let’s continue on the series of LOVE. To love unconditionally requires an amount of maturity.
This, you must not expect someone to love you unconditionally if you become overly clingy or heavily dependent on them to fulfill our needs
It is toxic and a huge disservice to your peace of mind and sense of self to make life all about your partner. You must paint your life with a lush variety of colors made up of hobbies, friendships, and other interests that go beyond your partner in order to achieve balance in your life.
Excessively relying on your partner, can make your relationship overly strained and make your partner unhappy, uninterested, and burdened. This is, of course, is not fair to them.
Conditional love in a relationship starts with you cherishing yourself to the point where your relationship becomes the tip of the iceberg rather than your relationship being the whole iceberg itself. You will realize that when you have fulfilled your needs then you will have a more prospective opportunity are having a relationship that is overflowing with not just rivers of mutual respect but rivers of unconditional love as well.
Nevertheless, you must take cognizance of this priceless piece of advice: feeling and offering unconditional love must never allow you to lay the foundation for a toxic relationship.
No matter how much you love someone and accept their curves, edges, and flaws you must set healthy boundaries of respect. This will prevent you from sowing seeds of toxicity in your relationship.
Unconditional love is founded upon selflessly loving for another person and also being loved in return. Unconditional love is not a duty we must execute out of expectation.
Unconditional love deals with the ability of both you and your partner to make compromises and sacrifices. If you are the only one compromising and sacrificing, it is not unconditional love, but toxic self-sacrifice.
QUOTES ABOUT LIVING
You cannot receive true love until you love yourself.
We see only a reflection of ourselves in other people.
You will accept only the love you feel inside.
If you don’t love yourself, you will think it’s love when someone treats you poorly; even though in your mind you may know you should be treated better.
If you were treated better, you would lose interest because it would not match the feeling you have inside.
We reject anything more than we feel we truly deserve.
Love yourself, accept yourself, and you will no longer be attracted to those who don’t treat you with love and kindness.
Feel love, receive love.
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MY JOURNEY OF COMPLETION (Body, Heart and Soul) – Enjoy Life While Managing Cancer
CONTINUING THE SERIES ON HOW SAFE IS MEXICO?
Dan and I grabbed an opportunity nine years ago, when we took on the adventure and moved to Mexico. Back then, we didn’t know what to expect, except that both of us were alive and ready for a change. We had been going to Tijuana for cancer treatments and knew somewhat what we were heading into. We ended up living in the center of the country however; better for travel purposes and it was nothing like what we had thought about. To this date, we are back in the states living in Virginia and what we took from Mexico was friendships, culture and understanding of their ways of life.
Through thousands of pictures that I took, Dan and I are showing how safe Mexico is. There is a saying ‘A picture is worth a thousand words’; this is so true! A picture tells a story just as well as, if not better than, a lot of written words.
"Chinese proverb. One picture is worth ten thousand words."
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BONUS MINI VIDEO
So, we will be posting a gallery of pictures on each post, hopefully you will see each one has a story.
This is where we continue on the book: LIVING SUCCESSFULLY WITH SCREWED-UP PEOPLE, by Elizabeth B. Brown. Dan and I continue to share ways to benefit and help keep one’s health cells healthy. A wise man told me ten years ago, when one is in balance with themselves; one stays healthy.
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Today Dan and I will be continuing to post CHAPTER THREE – WHO IS SCREWED UP?
STOPPING THE MARCH
Dan and I will be blogging questions that will help you determine if you are marching in the wrong direction in your relationship.
Even one yes answer is unhealthy and portends a skewing relationship.
1. Do you base how you feel on what he or she does?
2. Do you worry about whether the person is attentive enough, cares enough, is supportive enough?
3. Does his or her periodic praising of someone else threaten you?
4. Do you store up the wrongs he or she does toward you?
5. Do you finish the statement, you make me feel ----with negatives?
6. Do you feel hampered and controlled by the relationship?
7. Do you constantly worry and fret about your relationship?
8. Are the problems in the relationship eating you alive?
9. Are you overwhelmed with guilt about what you do or don’t do?
10. Are you seething over issues that swirl off the other person?
11. Do you feel unappreciated most of the time?
12. Do you feel what you do is futile in the relationship?
13. Do you do things you hate because it is expected of you?
14. Do you resent any time he or she spends helping others?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be forfeiting your power and ability to think, feel, and act independently.
Tomorrow I’ll continue blogging - interdependency is spinning into codependency when relationships exhibit certain traits, which I will post.
This is the time to get ready for food and remedies that heal; alchemy of herbs. In the coming week, Dan and I will be blogging the benefits of ROSEMARY. It’s amazing what and how rosemary can help keep your body healthy?
Indigestion is usually the sign of an underlying ailment and is characterized by discomfort in the upper abdominal region. To ease this discomfort, the Rosemary extract may prove to be helpful.
This extract can effectively aid complete digestion of ingested food particles and is also suitable for treating stomach disorders that involve excessive acid production, or dysfunction, such as acid reflux.
Stay tune, more benefits to come.
NOTE AND REPEAT – PHRASE TO REMEMBER; Health is Wealth
THIS IS AN ENCLOSURE – will be at the end of all the blogs, for I stress; this daily routine will heal and keep your body cells happy.
As I end this blog, Dan and I for several years have shared our experiences with enjoying life while managing cancer. By keeping healthy, our routine daily has been walking (exercise), meditation (for stress), Qigong (exercise and for stress).
Lots of chores today, laundry 🧺, Heckle🐢 but still we had time to take a walk in the park close to our place. Love looking at nature and the beautiful flowers 💐
I know some will say they do not have enough time with work, kids and household chores!!!
Dan and I have put together videos from WALK AT HOME together on our website, that you can follow in home; when you have short periods of time and unable to go out. They are from 15 mins up to 30 mins depending on the miles. This is one of the first steps to making your cells happy!!
Also, meditation videos, help to lower stress and is also one of the first steps to making your cells happy; click on https://www.thejourneytogoodhealth.com/meditation
Again, they are no more than 10 to 20 mins and they are guided meditations.
Self-Love: Guided Meditation on Unconditionally Loving You |Epic - Uplifting - Healing POSITIVE
10 Minute Guided Meditation to explore unconditional self-love and kindness by celebrating every aspect of who you are and your journey to arrive at this moment.
“Surrender is a gift that you can give yourself. It’s an act of faith. It’s saying that even though I can’t see where this river is flowing, I trust it will take me in the right direction.” ~ Debbie Ford
We are still working on Qigong video’s to be posted on the website for easy access, until now you can go to the blog https://www.thejourneytogoodhealth.com/blog and on the right-hand side are hash # tag words, just click on the word #walk #Qigong #meditation. The post will pop up and then you can begin. Have fun with it!
GIVE OUT LOVE ❤️ LET IT COME IN
Until Wednesday, love alone is capable of uniting living beings in such a way as to complete and fulfill them, for it alone takes them and joins them by what is deepest in themselves.