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One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being -

One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.


Hello Followers,

It’s now HUMP DAY!

Happy Wednesday.

Here in Virginia, we have been waking up to cool weather in the 40’s; however, as the day goes on it gets up to the lows of 70.

How’s it where you are?

Love to hear your location and temperatures.

Just send a comment!

Moving on to the topic of the day, SELF-WORTH.

I for many years had a mental picture of who people wanted me to be.

And thought that if I was the other person, they would like me.

It’s okay to have ambitions and life goals, but never let your dreams make you deny yourself.

Self-denial is an enemy to self-worth.

This is why it is painful to become self-aware.

Most people will never want to let go of who they think they are and embrace their true selves for who they indeed are.

Moving away from my home (FLORIDA) of 52 years changed my thinking of who I am.


This was posted on Wednesday, April 25, 2012 on my blog

10 Breast Cancer Facts You May Not Know

There's still a lot we don't know about breast cancer, but we're discovering more every day.

Here, 10 key facts that can ease your fears, answer your questions; even save your life.

In the United States, breast cancer is the second most common cancer among women and the second leading cause of cancer death among women of all races and ethnicities.

Yet many people are still unaware of their risk and of which factors or lifestyle choices are most significant.

Here are 10 key facts about breast cancer that every woman and man should know.

Improving Breast Cancer Statistics

About 230,000 new cases of invasive breast cancer will be diagnosed among U.S. women this year, with approximately 39,000 dying from the disease.

But a more positive number is this: There are also currently more than 2.5 million breast cancer survivors in the United States.

"Earlier diagnosis and better treatments have improved survival of people diagnosed with breast cancer,” says Kristi Funk, MD, breast cancer surgeon and founder of the Pink Lotus Breast Center in Los Angeles.

In fact, death rates from breast cancer have been declining since about 1990, according to breast cancer statistics from the American Cancer Society, with women younger than 50 years of age showing the largest improvement.

Breast Cancer and Genetics

According to the American Cancer Society, breast cancer risk is approximately doubled among women who have one first-degree relative (mother, sister, or daughter) with the disease.

However, more than 85 percent of women with breast cancer have no family history.

“Many women over 40 who do not have a family history think it is okay to skip breast exams and mammograms, which alarms me, because most women who get breast cancer do not have a close relative with the disease,” says Dr. Funk.

Men and Breast Cancer

Approximately 2,100 new cases of invasive breast cancer will be diagnosed in men this year, with about 450 men dying from the disease.

The American Cancer Society estimates that a man’s lifetime risk of developing breast cancer is about 1 in 1,000.

“While this number does remain small, men can develop breast cancer,” says Funk.

“In addition, due to the fact that men rarely consider breast cancer a possibility, they typically delay seeking attention and get diagnosed at a later stage of disease.”

Benign Breast Lumps

Feeling a lump in your breast can be a terrifying experience, but according to the National Breast Cancer Foundation, 8 out of 10 breast lumps are benign; meaning not cancerous.

Most breast lumps are cysts (fluid-filled sacs within your breast), benign tumors such as fibroadenomas, mastitis (breast inflammation), blood clots from trauma, scar tissue, or simply nodules of dense breast tissue, which are not typically linked to cancer, Funk explains.

Breast Cancer Risk and Age

Breast cancer can develop at any age, but risk does increase as you get older.

Statistics from the American Cancer Society show that breast cancer risk can be stratified by decade in life.

For women at 20 years of age, the risk is 1 in 1,760.

At 30, it’s 1 in 229, increasing to 1 in 69 at 40, 1 in 42 at 50, 1 in 29 at 60, and 1 in 27 at 70.

The overall lifetime risk for developing breast cancer is 1 in 8.

Breast Pain and Breast Cancer

Pain is the body’s early alert system, letting you know when medical attention may be required.

However, breast pain is not a common breast cancer symptom.

It is more likely to be associated with certain non-cancerous conditions.

Says Funk, “Pain is more typically related to hormonal changes or is cyclical depending on your menstrual cycle."

Alcohol and Breast Cancer Risk

Women who consume one alcoholic drink a day have a very small increased risk of breast cancer compared with women who don't drink at all.

Women who drink two to five glasses of alcohol daily have approximately 1.5 times the risk.

However, Funk says that moderate alcohol consumption has been associated with better heart health.

Work with your doctor to find the right balance to help prevent heart issues without increasing your breast cancer risk.

Dense Breasts and Breast Cancer Screening

“Breast cancer typically occurs in the dense part of the breast, not the fatty tissue,” Funk says.

“Therefore, women with dense breasts have more tissue that puts them at a higher risk of breast cancer.”

Dense breast tissue can also make it harder to spot cancer on mammograms.

Funk recommends that women with dense breasts also undergo ultrasound or breast magnetic resonance imaging (MRI).

The Link Between Breast Cancer and Colon and Prostate Cancers

Approximately 5 to 10 percent of breast cancer cases appear to be hereditary.

The most common cause is an inherited mutation in the BRCA1 and BRCA2 genes.

It is thought that these genetic mutations play a role in other types of cancers, too, including colon and prostate.

That means that having a father or brother with BRCA1 or BRCA2 mutations may put a woman at risk for breast cancer.

However, “data on colon and prostate cancer increasing the risk of breast cancer has been inconsistent," Funk says.

"I suggest that women who have a strong family history of any type of cancer should seek genetic counseling and understand their risk, especially if there is breast and ovarian cancer accompanying colon or prostate cancer in the family, or if there is breast cancer under 50 years of age or ovarian cancer at any age.

Breast Cancer: Fear vs. Reality

Research has shown that women are more afraid of breast cancer than of any other illness, despite the fact that heart disease is actually the No. 1 killer of women in the United States.

It kills more women over 65 years of age than all other cancers combined.

In fact, you’re four to six times more likely to die of heart disease than of breast cancer.

The takeaway?

Be alert to various cancer risks, but live a heart-healthy lifestyle to best protect yourself.



People who have had low self-worth for a long time cannot just one day be confident.

Habits need to change gradually.

You know you wouldn’t stand by and let someone treat you best friend or your child badly.

So, when someone is treating you badly; stop and think of what you would tell your best friend or child to say in those moments.

And use that great advice for yourself.

How many are you out there are left-handers?

I raise my left hand! When I was growing up, I learned everything right-handed; which made everything I did the wrong way.

It’s time to share some words from THE LEFT-HANDER’S HANDBOOK.


It is known that during gestation, if enough testosterone reaches the fetus, it will temporarily inhibit the development of the right-handed brain.

This giving the left-handed brain a head start.

RESULT: a left-handed baby.

If you are interested in reading Dan’s and My Journey Through Cancer without Surgery, Chemo or Radiation, just click on the books for more information:

MY JOURNEY OF COMPLETION (Body, Heart and Soul) – Enjoy Life While Managing Cancer



Dan and I grabbed an opportunity nine years ago, when we took on the adventure and moved to Mexico. Back then, we didn’t know what to expect, except that both of us were alive and ready for a change. We had been going to Tijuana for cancer treatments and knew somewhat what we were heading into. We ended up living in the center of the country however; better for travel purposes and it was nothing like what we had thought about. To this date, we are back in the states living in Virginia and what we took from Mexico was friendships, culture and understanding of their ways of life.

Through thousands of pictures that I took, Dan and I are showing how safe Mexico is. There is a saying ‘A picture is worth a thousand words’; this is so true! A picture tells a story just as well as, if not better than, a lot of written words.


"Chinese proverb. One picture is worth ten thousand words."

So, we will be posting a gallery of pictures on each post, hopefully you will see each one has a story.

Today will continue the series on LIVING SUCCESSFULLY WITH SCREWED-UP PEOPLE, by Elizabeth B. Brown. Dan and I continue to share ways to benefit and help keep one’s health cells healthy. A wise man told me ten years ago, when one is in balance with themselves; one stays healthy.

For more information click on book



Reason encourages emotions to slow down when they begin to become overbearing.

Reason talks realistically to you about the trade-off of long-term happiness for feel-good now.

Your emotions, on the other hand, plead for instant gratification; even if it will be harmful in the long term.

Reason points out that life never has been fair.

So what?

Reason asks, is your plan to deal with that reality going to resolve the problems or just make it worse?

Reason points out that feelings can paralyze unless you make the concerted efforts to harness their power.

I will post later in the blog.

Tomorrow I will be blogging on when someone steps on your feet, it hurts.

This is the time to get ready for food and remedies that heal; alchemy of herbs. In the coming week, Dan and I will be blogging the benefits of NETTLE. It’s amazing what and how nettle can help keep your body healthy?

Did you know that nettle manages diabetes?

Dan and I hadn’t heard of this herb until we read the book of ALCHEMY OF HERBS.

This goes out to all of you that are diabetic or know someone that is!

It is simply irresistible to not like sugars.

Whether it be in cakes or pastries, processed as sweets, and yes even that box of chocolates you were left with back HEART HEALTH.

It’s quite unfortunate news if you have diabetes running in the family, especially for a person with a sweet tooth.

It is good to know, though, that nettle tea can also put diabetes in check!

In fact, stinging nettles contain compounds that mimic the effects of insulin.

Studies have also shown that stinging nettle has the ability to reduce blood sugar levels.

In a three-month study in 46 people, taking 500 mg of stinging nettle extract three times daily significantly lowered blood sugar levels compared to placebos.

In the right amount, stinging nettles can serve as a good alternative to other medicine, but more research is said to be done to prove it definitively.


THIS IS AN ENCLOSURE – will be at the end of all the blogs, for I stress; this daily routine will heal and keep your body cells happy.

As I end this blog, Dan and I for several years have shared our experiences with enjoying life while managing cancer. By keeping healthy, our routine daily has been walking (exercise), meditation (for stress), Qigong (exercise and for stress).

Dan and I take each second at a time, health is wealth. We take a simple walk around our place and make it exciting.

I know some will say they do not have enough time with work, kids and household chores!!!

Dan and I have put together videos from WALK AT HOME together on our website, that you can follow in home; when you have short periods of time and unable to go out. They are from 15 mins up to 30 mins depending on the miles. This is one of the first steps to making your cells happy!!

Also, meditation videos, help to lower stress and is also one of the first steps to making your cells happy; click on

SELF WORTH Healing Meditation. Increase Your Self-Worth with This Guided Meditation Visualization.

Increase your self-worth with this self-worth healing guided meditation.

Identify and begin to heal that which caused your low self-worth and then start the process of building self-worth.

With encouraging female voice and relaxing music.

This meditation involves visiting a past memory.

Only perform this meditation if you feel strong enough to do so.

If you experience any difficulties or begin to feel upset in any way, simply end the meditation by opening your eyes.

Seek support if you need to.

“Surrender is a gift that you can give yourself. It’s an act of faith. It’s saying that even though I can see where this river is flowing, I trust it will take me in the right direction.” ~ Debbie Ford

We are still working on Qigong video’s to be posted on the website for easy access, until now you can go to the blog and on the right-hand side are hash #tag words, just click on the word #walk #Qigong #meditation. The post will pop up and then you can begin. Have fun with it!


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Until Thursday, as long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are - what others say is irrelevant.


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