Love cannot live where there is no trust.
NEW SERIES OF TRUST AND LIVING SUCCESSFULLY WITH SCREWED-UP PEOPLE. ALSO CONTINUING THE SERIES ON HOW SAFE IS MEXICO?
Good day, today as I woke up and opened up my eyes; I realize that today was hump day.
Man, this week is going by so - so fast! When I say ‘Hump Day’ that generally means its Wednesday.
Similar to a camel’s hump, getting over Wednesday, or the middle of the week, means you’ve gotten ‘over the hump’ and you’re on the way toward the weekend.
For Dan and I it was frustrating to know that it was only the middle of the week. Particularly when we were swamped with work, time seem slow and nothing was exciting. We ended up counting the hours until our shift ended. We would be counting the days until it was Saturday again.
However, now that we are semi-retired; time goes a little bit faster. Look what you have to look forward to when you reach 63 or older.
Until then there are things you can do to cope. You can try after-hour drinks with a friend or co-worker. Sure, it’s only Wednesday, but who’s to say you can’t enjoy a cold brew in the middle of the week? Window-shopping can also be therapeutic - provided you don’t actually buy anything, of course! There’s also game night, visiting friends or relatives, or going to the park.
You will have to trust me on this! Yes, trust is the faith you have in someone that they will always remain loyal to you and love you. To trust someone means that you can rely on them and are comfortable confiding in them because you feel safe with them.
Trust is that foundation upon which your relationship can survive the hardest of times. In fact, without trust, you cannot sustain your relationship for a long time.
Lack of trust is one of the reasons for relationships to fall apart. Here is why trust is the driving factor in relationships; you cannot love without trusting a person. Trust is the building block of love. Just like how a child trusts her mother and thereby loves her, your partner needs to know that you are trustworthy and won’t ditch them in difficult times. This feeling is important for love to sprout and flourish.
Trust helps overcome obstacles. It is the binding factor for all cracks and differences in a relationship. You know deep down that you can overcome the problems and feel safe and secure with your partner.
Trust helps in healing. When you get hurt in your relationship, you get over it due to the deep trust that you have in your spouse.
It helps control your emotions. The degree to which you trust a person determines how much of yourself you want to give to him/her. If you are hurt or annoyed at them, it is only trust that tells you that there must be some reason behind their annoying behavior.
It is reassuring. Trust gives you the reassurance that your partner loves you despite the arguments and fights that you might have. That is the key to a long-lasting relationship.
You don’t need justifications. When you trust your partner absolutely you don’t need to explain or justify everything. You know that your partner will understand and trust your actions and decisions.
It teaches you about personal time and space. You don’t feel insecure about giving your partner their space. In fact, trust helps you stay close in spite of the obstacles.
QUOTES ABOUT LIVING
If a friend stops speaking to you because they believed gossip about you without even asking you for your side, then you didn’t really lose a friend. You lost only a person who didn’t trust or believe in you and that’s not really a loss at all.
It hurts because it feels unfair and you would not have treated them the same way. But if that’s the choice they’ve made, you can really only accept it and let them go. Even if you convince them this time, the absence of trust will not have changed; and it will continue to hurt you in every future circumstance.
If you are interested in reading Dan’s and My Journey Through Cancer without Surgery, Chemo or Radiation, just click on the books for more information:
MY JOURNEY OF COMPLETION (Body, Heart and Soul) – Enjoy Life While Managing Cancer
CONTINUING THE SERIES ON HOW SAFE IS MEXICO?
Agility Jalisco at Hotel Perico ~ Mexico – FIVE YEARS AGO
FOR ALL YOU DOG LOVERS
Dog agility is a dog sport in which a handler directs a dog through an obstacle course in a race for both time and accuracy. Dogs run off leash with no food or toys as incentives, and the handler can touch neither dog nor obstacles. Consequently, the handler's controls are limited to voice, movement, and various body signals, requiring exceptional training of the animal and coordination of the handler.
In its simplest form, an agility course consists of a set of standard obstacles laid out by a judge in a design of his or her own choosing in an area of a specified size. The surface may be of grass, dirt, rubber, or special matting. Depending on the type of competition, the obstacles may be marked with numbers indicating the order in which they must be completed.
Courses are complicated enough that a dog could not complete them correctly without human direction. In competition, the handler must assess the course, decide on handling strategies, and direct the dog through the course, with precision and speed equally important. Many strategies exist to compensate for the inherent difference in human and dog speeds and the strengths and weaknesses of the various dogs and handlers.
Today, I’m continuing on the book: LIVING SUCCESSFULLY WITH SCREWED-UP PEOPLE, by Elizabeth B. Brown. Dan and I continue to share ways to benefit and help keep one’s health good. A wise man told me ten years ago, when one is in balance with themselves; one stays healthy.
For more information click on book
Continuing on CHAPTER ONE – PUT ON YOUR GLASSES.
There is a way out of the swamp and ways to appreciate, even enjoy the person whose challenging behavior that is currently driving you nuts. How to stay afloat, set limits, and build a safety net to pull you out of the negative patterns in which you are ensconced.
When you are caught in the spin-offs of ailing relationships, you will need a new perspective. When you feel like you’re sinking because of the breakdowns in communication that thrive in unhealthy relationships, grab hold of the lifelines.
LIVING SUCCESSFULLY WITH SCREWED-UP PEOPLE, by Elizabeth B. Brown; will show you how. It will give you a gauge by which you discern; key indicators of a healthy relationship, signs of malfunctioning, techniques to judge who is responsible for what part of the malfunctioning, and healthy ways to cope and change.
Turning a toxic relationship into a healthy one requires hard work and a new vision. You can’t change your situation if you fail to see the problem and the options. Aerial vision brings the needed insight. It separates you from the relationship chaos so your insights can free you from the stranglehold of difficult relationships.
This is the time to get ready for food and remedies that heal; alchemy of herbs. Ever wonder at the tradition of complimentary mint at the end of a meal? Mint stimulates digestion and relieves nausea. It helps dispel that overfull feeling and possible indigestion or gas. So, the next herb that I will be blogging on is – yes, PEPPERMINT.
Peppermint is popular! If someone has only one herbal tea in the house, it most often is peppermint. It’s famous in candies such as peppermint drops and candy canes, which is a frequent flavoring in chewing gum, liqueurs – plus over the counter medicine.
I love peppermint tea and use peppermint oils for my perfume along with adding to soap.
Looking forward in sharing the health benefits of peppermint in the coming posts. Stay tune!
NOTE AND REPEAT – PHRASE TO REMEMBER; Health is Wealth
THIS IS AN ENCLOSURE – will be at the end of all the blogs, for I stress; this daily routine will heal and keep your body cells happy.
As I end this blog, Dan and I for several years have shared our experiences with enjoying life while managing cancer. By keeping healthy, our routine daily has been walking (exercise), meditation (for stress), Qigong (exercise and for stress).
Wow got up to 91F yesterday, only 38 humidity here in Roanoke. Dan and I decided since we were at Tanglewood Mall and seeing that it was air conditioned plus it's not busy; why not do our walking there. We even upped to three miles🚶🚶♀️🚶♂️
I know some will say they do not have enough time with work, kids and household chores!!!
Dan and I have put together videos from WALK AT HOME together on our website, that you can follow in home; when you have short periods of time and unable to go out. They are from 15 mins up to 30 mins depending on the miles. This is one of the first steps to making your cells happy!!
Also, meditation videos, help to lower stress and is also one of the first steps to making your cells happy; click on https://www.thejourneytogoodhealth.com/meditation . Again, they are no more than 10 to 20 mins and they are guided meditations.
20 Minute Mindfulness Meditation--Trust the Journey / Mindful Movement
Today I will be guiding you to be an observer of where you are in this present moment, to slow down and go within to be curious about your physical sensations as well as your emotional wellbeing. Often times, all it takes is stepping back from a situation where the habit is reaction so you can simply be aware of a moment and respond more in alignment with your true self. You can see the present moment for what it is and trust the journey.
The symbolism of winter invites us to quiet the mind. It invites us to wrap up in warmth and find stillness of our soul, to seek out serenity.
Look for the seasons to change, the energy to shift. Trust the journey.
I hope you enjoy!
“Surrender is a gift that you can give yourself. It’s an act of faith. It’s saying that even though I can’t see where this river is flowing, I trust it will take me in the right direction.” ~ Debbie Ford
We are still working on Qigong video’s to be posted on the website for easy access, until now you can go to the blog https://www.thejourneytogoodhealth.com/blog and on the right-hand side are hash # tag words, just click on the word #walk #Qigong #meditation. The post will pop up and then you can begin. Have fun with it!
Building trust begins with an appreciation and understanding of trust, but it also requires practice and practices.
Until Thursday, without trust, words become the hollow sound of a wooden gong. With trust, words become life itself.