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Be your own cheerleader and coach. Be your own biggest fan.

Be your own cheerleader and coach. Be your own biggest fan. In doing so, you will become your own best friend.


Hello followers,

The weekend is finely here! As I get older and a little wiser, I realize that loving Dan means loving myself first.

There is this saying before you can love and be someone’s best friend, you have to be your own best friend. So, I ask you what you feel is a best friend?

A best friend is someone you can trust with your deepest secrets, rely on in moments of crisis and celebrate meaningful life events with. However, developing the skills to be your own best friend means you can rely on your judgment and be your source of comfort when you need advice or support. Being your own best friend can also be a great way to work through feelings of loneliness, insecurity, and instability in your life. By cultivating a productive and positive self, you can learn to trust yourself consistently and turn inward to work on any issues or problems you may encounter.

Most people think that they know themselves well by the time they reach in their mid-50’s.

Do they really? How many people have really taken the time to write down and analyze their thoughts on a regular basis? How many people have embraced meditation as a way to learn more about themselves? Have you?

Best friends are able to predict each other’s moods because they know each other so well. As your own best friend, you can do the same. The more you invest in getting to know yourself, the better you will be able to deal with anything that life throws your way.

In order to be our own best friend, we need to learn to love ourselves unconditionally. We need to accept the fact that we are complex — we are neither entirely good nor completely bad.

Ironically, only forgiveness can give us the strength to right our wrongs and move on with our lives. So, be your own best friend. Love yourself unconditionally.


Hold fast your dreams! Within your heart keep one still, secret spot where dreams may go and sheltered so; may thrive and grow. Where doubt and fear are not. O keep a place apart, within your heart; for little dreams to go!

We see so many ugly things. Deceits, wrongs and quarrelling’s; we know, alas! We know how quickly fade the color in the west, the bloom upon the flower, the bloom upon the beast and youth’s blind hour. Yet keep within your heart a place apart where little dreams may go, may thrive and grow. Hold fast, hold fast your dreams! By Louise Driscoll

Dan sent this to me through messages yesterday. He received it in his e-mail and thought of you all for me to share.

Stress Reduction- An XY Wellness Element- Reduce the Effects of Negative Stress

Stress Reduction is one of the core pillars of the XY Wellness Approach to reclaiming and rebuilding your health and quality of life. For your consideration, here are seven simple suggestions to mull over:

Give up all hope for a better past. Regrets and grudges are a waste of your here and now.

As is worrying about an uncertain future. It is how you take advantage of and use your here and now that will determine your future. Act accordingly.

Apparently, not everyone is in your hurry. Yes, I’m talking to you. Traffic is traffic, and it is not our job to teach the world how to drive. And that is just one example. The more we react to things that we cannot affect, the more stress we needlessly inject into our daily life.

Avoid the absurd and unnecessary. Arguing over politics has as much chance of leading to a change in either party’s perspective as arguing over religious beliefs. So, what’s the point?

There is far too much self-induced and misdirected anger in America today. You have better things to do. Start by turning off cable news.

Meditate, don’t medicate. If the term “meditation” seems too New Age to you despite it being an ancient practice, then let’s simply refer to it as gathering your thoughts. A few moments each day unplugged and off the grid will not only lower your stress level but will boost your available energy level.

But definitely naturally medicate. Tap into the powerful benefits of exercise, and enjoy life riding a wave of dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin and adrenaline: all so good that it is hard to believe they are both free and legal. The fitter you get, the less you will crave other stimulants that actually further stress your body and increase your stress levels.


Focus on your priorities. Understand what truly matters to you, and make certain that you are investing your time and energy accordingly. Recognize the difference between being busy and being successful. Set and act upon priorities that make sense for you. Otherwise, others will set your priorities for you. Are you using your time and energy to pursue what you value most? If the first thing you do upon arriving at work is to check and clear your e-mail inbox, what does that suggest?

Life is far simpler than we allow it to be. “No drama” is my mantra in life and at work, but don’t get me wrong: I am a work in progress, and that’s on a good day. That aside, before you get upset about something, ask yourself if you will even remember the issue in two weeks’ time. If not, just let it go. In general, lighten up, focus on the here and now, pursue what matters most to you, and don’t forget to have a great time along the way.

Awaken a Renewal of Energy with this 15 Minute Guided Meditation / Nature's Lessons Series

Today's practice is about exploring the lessons offered to us by Mother nature when we are willing to listen and learn. The cycle of the seasons, year after year, has a lot to teach us. Each season has meaning and can invite contemplation of the connections of nature to our own experiences.

The symbolism of spring brings the promise of renewal, like a butterfly emerging from its cocoon.

The flowers are blossoming, they are reaching and growing, they are growing towards the light. The light each day is growing longer. There is an energy of abundance and new growth.

During this 15-minute mindfulness meditation, you can enjoy bringing your awareness to your breath, a relaxed scan of your body, and plenty of stress-relieving introspection as you contemplate the lessons of the season of Spring.

My Journey of Completion – Body, Heart & Soul (Enjoying Life While Managing Cancer), this book I wrote and was published four years ago; showing my passion on life and experience with managing cancer without surgery, chemo and radiation. I would like to share some pages with you doing this series of believing. I invite you to go to the website for more information.


It’s impossible, said pride. It’s risky, said experience. It’s pointless, said reason. Give it a try, whispered the heart. It’s early in the morning and this message came to me. I fear no more for I have managed my disease. I trusted my heart to find another way to treat my illness other than cut, poison, and burn. I also realized without having cancer I would have not met these amazing people that have taught me so much about life and I would have never experienced Mexico and their culture.

Through taking a detour in the road, I have better knowledge and have tried to educate others on other ways to control diseases (Functional Medicine). Through my journey, I have been sharing my personal healing process in hopes that maybe your heart is whispering to you like it did me.

Through the knowledge that I have gained, I do not fear the unknown, I look past that and take each day with a grain of salt. The future will be full of experiences that will not be impossible for I took something bad and made it good. We all deserve to follow our hearts and choose our own journey, but first we have to research the unknown, Functional Medicine.

Research and you will find that life is not pointless. Your mind will grow full of hope and your journey will continue for many years.

To finish I must say that with our hearts we can change our fear of the unknown and give hope to our future. Enjoy the now, for the future depends on it.


Allowing yourself more me time means you need to feel happy in the skin you’re in. There are plenty of ways to give yourself a bit of self-love. Write yourself a card with a positive message on and pop it on the fridge. This way you’ll get a confidence boost every time you’re in the kitchen.

Alternatively, makes a list of all your achievements throughout the week; however, big or small and read them back to yourself on Sunday evening – ready to start the next week with a spring in your step.

Take time to do what makes your soul happy.

Yesterday Dan and I started this exercise back in our home program. If you haven’t been following the blog, a recap of what swing is! This is how to do it: • Stand with legs shoulder-width apart. • With palms facing downwards, raise both arms to chest level. • Swing arms in a pendulum-like motion. • After every five swings, bend knees slightly and spring up quickly.

The exercise demands little use of actual strength and on the contrary, encourages relaxation of the body.

A form from Chinese medical practitioners, on the surface it appears that this exercise does help provide the body with a level of physical activity, and it is simple enough for even the most unfit of persons to do.

Anti-Cancer Arm Swing Exercise (complete series)

Produced by Jean Yeoh. This is a 39 minutes exercise of 8 routines with a total of approximate 2000 arm swings to help you to build up your defense against cancer.

Friday, Dan and I took a long walk along Virginia's Greenway. We met more than our goal, a little over five miles. I don't think I have taken so many steps. If you are not able to go out and walk in nature, here is a video - WAKE UP & Walk! Week 10 | Walk at Home YouTube Workout Series

Welcome to Week 10 of Wake Up and Walk! This week is our Mini Dance Walk and Stretch. It's a WALK PARTY! Grab a friend and press play!

Ready for foods and remedies that heal; alchemy of herbs. Today its about how to use cayenne pepper. Cayenne is a great addition to many culinary dishes. It is most often used dried, either whole or powered. This is because cayenne degrades fairly quickly, make sure you purchase it freshly dried and in small amounts. Ideally, you should restock with freshly powered cayenne pepper every six months.

The most capsaicin is located in the lining of the seeds and the membrane from which the seeds hang. If using whole cayenne chiles, you can decrease the heat by first removing the seeds.

To avoid stomach upset, it is recommended consuming cayenne with a meal. Depending on your sensitivity and tolerance, you can use just a few sprinkles to spice up your meal or therapeutic amount of 1 to 10 grams per day.

When I use cayenne, Dan is able to handle more than I. So, I will put it on the table and we add accordingly to our liking.

Tomorrow I will be sharing CAYENNE TEA recipe.

Until Sunday, stop and smell the roses; have a wonderful Saturday. Are there passions that you have always wanted to explore? Are there places that you want to travel to? Don’t wait for someone else to follow your dreams. Get out there and start experiencing everything that the world has to offer.


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