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It is mutual trust, even more than mutual interest, that holds human associations together.


Dear followers,

HAPPY MONDAY! Like every morning Dan has my coffee ready for me. It’s a routine, I wake up make my bed; then off to the kitchen for a cup of coffee.

Before I get up Dan is editing this post, for then I pick the pictures and enter the post.

Then it’s time to make something to eat, I often create a dish for brunch.

So, I’m going to start this week off on the right foot instead of the left. You know Mondays can be hard. At the end of a nice and relaxing weekend, it can be difficult to find the motivation to start your week off strong. The Monday blues can be a real thing for many people.

Whether you're feeling lazy, tired, or dreading the upcoming week. It’s important to motivate yourself and give reason to get energized and tackle any obstacles or fears in your way. So, take the opportunities this Monday and make this a perfect day to seize them all.

“Monday Morning Blues? Why not change the color of your Monday to yellow and brighten up the coming week?” – Kanika Saxena

Last week I started posting on TRUST and realize how important this is to our health.

Trust is the foundation of every healthy relationship. Without it, there’s no way for friendship, romance, and family to grow and stand the test of time. When we trust, we’re at peace because we know someone is looking out for us whatever happens.

However, the realities of life have taught us that trust is not easy to give and to earn. Sometimes we give our trust to those who don’t deserve it. When we end up getting hurt, it becomes hard for us to trust again, even the ones who have our best interests at heart.

But at the end of the day, constantly doubting others can be taxing. We can only accept that just like love, trust is also a leap of faith. Trusting the right person gains us a friend, a partner, and an ally for life, while trusting the wrong one gains us a valuable lesson. It’s sufficed to say that both are essential for us to endure and to prevail.

Building trust is a two-way process, it is important to trust and equally important to be trusted. That requires mutual effort and commitment. Before building trust, you need to understand each other’s expectations and what trust means to you. There are some ways to build trust in your relationship!

The first way is admitting your mistakes. It’s natural to make mistakes, but owning them is not easy. The first thing on your agenda of building trust is to admit your mistakes. Don’t try to cover up your mistakes; the situation becomes messier if you do so. Repentance shows that you want to build trust.

The second way is forgiving each other, and when your partner owns up his/her mistake, be humble enough to forgive. Don’t hold on to past fights, let go, accept, and make the most of ‘now’.

Tomorrow I will be posting more ways to build trust in your relationship.



Opening yourself up to a person takes a huge amount of courage and trust. Even if you think you know, you never really know how they will react or respond. That will always be out of your control. In keeping them out, you keep out the risk of disappointment and pain. But in keeping them out, you also keep out the chance of acceptance and love.

In the end, you really have to decide if the risk or the chance is more important to you and act accordingly.

If you are interested in reading Dan’s and My Journey Through Cancer without Surgery, Chemo or Radiation, just click on the books for more information:

MY JOURNEY OF COMPLETION (Body, Heart and Soul) – Enjoy Life While Managing Cancer

CONTINUING THE SERIES ON HOW SAFE IS MEXICO? Dan and I grabbed an opportunity nine years ago, when we took on the adventure and moved to Mexico. Back then, we didn’t know what to expect, except that both of us were alive and ready for a change. We had been going to Tijuana for cancer treatments and knew somewhat what we were heading into.

We ended up living in the center of the country however; better for travel purposes and it was nothing like what we had thought about. To this date, we are back in the states living in Virginia; however, what we took from Mexico was friendships, culture and understanding of their ways of life.

Through thousands of pictures that I took, Dan and I are showing how safe Mexico is. There is a saying ‘A picture is worth a thousand words’; this is so true! A picture tells a story just as well as, if not better than, a lot of written words.

"Chinese proverb. One picture is worth ten thousand words."

So, we will be posting a gallery of pictures on each post, hopefully you will see each one has a story.


Today, I’m continuing on the book: LIVING SUCCESSFULLY WITH SCREWED-UP PEOPLE, by Elizabeth B. Brown. Dan and I continue to share ways to benefit and help keep one’s health cells healthy.

A wise man told me ten years ago, when one is in balance with themselves; one stays healthy.

For more information click on book


Ready for the clear vision test! This is a step toward a stronger, renewed and vital relationship.

It is a gauge by which you can determine whether your actions and responses to a difficult person are; healthy, challenged, or screwed up.

Rank each statement according how closely it describes you and your challenging relationship. Then add your points and compare the total with the scale at the end.

1 = never feel this

2 = sometimes feel this

3 = quite often feel this

1. I stew and seethe in silence before our times together.

2. I worry about and anticipate difficulties and chaos that will come after most of our times together.

3. I feel manipulated, intimidated, and controlled most of the time.

4. I feel unappreciated most of the time.

5. I feel I am always having to defend myself.

6. I feel overwhelming guilt after our being together.

7. I feel like something is eating me alive.

8. My conversation with others often spins off the negative actions I have to this person.

9. I seem unable to control my anger, resentment, or hurt when we are together or after we have been together.

10. I feel like I will never be able to measure up to what is expected.

11. I feel like a loser when I express my ideas, needs, or beliefs.

12. I try to plan out my actions and reactions before we get together.

13. I fantasize about getting even.

14. I fantasize about getting out.

15. I feel I must protect someone other than myself from harm, physical or psychological; caused by the difficult person.

16. I long to help this person change so they will be happier.

17. I long to help this person change so I will be happier.

18. I explode at the most unexpected times.

19. I do not feel happy most of the time.

20. I don’t like me most of the time.

21. Most of the time I long for our relationship to be different.


21: Your relationship is normal and healthy.

22-34: Your relationship is skewing.

35- 63: Your relationship and your reactions to it are unhealthy.

Be encouraged! If the test indicates that there is a problem, you can seek solutions.

If you are tired of fighting, tired of always being put down, tired of feeling like a spare part, hurt, discouraged, blue and let down. Don’t be discouraged, grab the lifelines. It takes only one person to change a relationship.


Ø Aerial vision clears away illusions. Wrong actions are wrong; wrong responses to wrong actions are equally wrong.

Ø The swamp bottom is often the beginning of renewal.

Ø Relationships low points can be hope points.

Ø It takes only one person to change a relationship.


This is the time to get ready for food and remedies that heal; alchemy of herbs. Continuing on the health benefits on PEPPERMINT. You might be surprised!

Peppermint helps treat oily and greasy skin. Peppermint leaves have been used widely for ages to treat oily and greasy skin. Menthol in peppermint reduces the secretion of oil from the sebaceous glands which help to get an oil-free skin naturally.

To use, apply freshly grounded peppermint leaves on your face.

Leave it for 10 minutes.

You may also add honey to the paste to get best results.

Wash it off and pat dry.

You may also combine peppermint paste with jojoba oil or aloe vera to get optimum benefits.

Peppermint is known to balance the pH levels of the skin. This helps balance the production of excessive oils in the skin, thereby reducing overall acne and breakouts. The astringent, antiseptic and anti-inflammatory properties of peppermint help diminish the appearance of acne, blackheads, rashes and redness of the skin.

To use mix 2 drops of peppermint oil to your regular face wash.

Wash your face twice a day using this.

You may also mix a drop or two of this oil to your night cream or moisturizer to treat acne and skin rashes.

Tomorrow I’ll post more peppermint benefits.


THIS IS AN ENCLOSURE – will be at the end of all the blogs, for I stress; this daily routine will heal and keep your body cells happy.

As I end this blog, Dan and I for several years have shared our experiences with enjoying life while managing cancer. By keeping healthy, our routine daily has been walking (exercise), meditation (for stress), Qigong (exercise and for stress).

This Sunday summer afternoon walk, was sweaty, humid and felt like almost 90F here in Roanoke, Virginia. But enjoyed taking shadow photos🖼️

I know some will say they do not have enough time with work, kids and household chores!!!

Dan and I have put together videos from WALK AT HOME together on our website, that you can follow in home; when you have short periods of time and unable to go out. They are from 15 mins up to 30 mins depending on the miles. This is one of the first steps to making your cells happy!!


Also, meditation videos, help to lower stress and is also one of the first steps to making your cells happy; click on . Again, they are no more than 10 to 20 mins and they are guided meditations.

“Surrender is a gift that you can give yourself. It’s an act of faith. It’s saying that even though I can’t see where this river is flowing, I trust it will take me in the right direction.” ~ Debbie Ford

I even caught Heckle doing yoga yesterday, on a lazy Sunday afternoon.

We are still working on Qigong video’s to be posted on the website for easy access, until now you can go to the blog and on the right-hand side are hash # tag words, just click on the word #walk #Qigong #meditation. The post will pop up and then you can begin. Have fun with it!


Until Tuesday, trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievements.

Dan and I highly recommend the books that I have been blogging, for they are uplifting or knowledgeable in keeping healthy.


QUOTES ABOUT LIVING from the Happiness in Your Life Book Series

ALCHEMY OF HERBS; Transform Everyday Ingredients into Foods and Remedies That Heal


THE JOY OF MISSING OUT; #JOMO - How to Embrace Solitude and Shun FOMO for Good


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